This One’s for the Girls

The most important relationship that enhances the quality of all the other relationships, and sets the tone, is the one you have with yourself.  So many women yearn for that “perfect relationship”, manifesting and longing, while simultaneously neglecting the work of tending to their inner girl, as they wait for that ideal mate to sweep them off their feet.

Even if we hit the jackpot and achieve these “ideal relationships”, contemplation finds its way into your life. It’s been my experience within my practice and on retreats, we women suddenly find ourselves questioning the value of our friendships and intimate relationships. As we reflect and look in the rearview mirror we begin to notice so many of us were oblivious, simply going through the motions, tolerating the intolerable for various reasons; neglecting friends and relatives who are our safe people in exchange for our children’s friend’s parents, often shaking our heads, accepting things that don’t  coincide with our values. Time moves fast, oftentimes we aren’t consciously aware simply because we are hyper focused on our children, career or romantic relationships.

It’s apparent so many blame their strained relationships on peri menopause and menopause. If we can get in touch with our inner girl and align with the values of our real, authentic self, then we can learn to speak our truth, advocate for ourselves and refine the quality of our relationships.

Be Mindful, as we evolve, we become more grounded and true to ourselves. We begin to realign our lives with confidence. We learn to ignore the opinions of others and follow our own instincts with determination. Our choices in friends and who we date often look very different than who we were attracted to in our younger years. We become increasingly selective about who is in our inner circle.

Just Remember, Social Connections are imperative for Longevity! Join a book, poetry, card, garden club. Learn to needle point, knit, crochet, in a group setting. These are equally as important throughout the life span as exercise.